Thai Girlfriend
The vast majority of farangs have Thai girlfriends from the farang bar-girl and freelancer scene. A smaller percentage are Thai ladies from the offices of multinational companies (usually met in the office), and Thai ladies attending universities (often met via Internet).
A still smaller percentage is Thai ladies from none of the above, and what I’ll generally categorize as from social encounters — the general blue collar workforce, or born wealthy and idling, or supported by their extended family, etc. (Low level sales ladies in department stores and the like are often in a grey area, in-between.)
There are major differences between “mainstream” ladies and . While there are many sorts, most of them will not get in bed with you quickly. (How long varies from a few dates to a few months. Those waiting until marriage now make up a small minority.) They will expect you to be faithful to them. You must know how to be reasonably polite and proper in Thai culture if you ever expect to get far. Sukhumvit and Pattaya norms are not acceptable — this is a different subculture.
When in public in Thailand, it’s important to not overdo physical contact. Watch Thai couples. They may touch hands or arms occasionally, but they don’t walk down the road arm in arm, and don’t even hold hands much. Nonetheless, the looks in your eyes, smiles, and gentle affectionate touching which flows naturally is quite acceptable in contemporary Bangkok culture. Of course, unnatural, “forced” contact is a turn-off. Kissing in public is something you should never do in Thailand.
The easiest way to attract ladies is by already having one, which of course is objectionable, but it’s just an experience. There’s something about your body language when you’re in love that makes you more attractive. When seen in public with your girlfriend, there’s often envy on the part of the other girls, and potential inroads there.
Thais are very sensitive to body language. Everyone in the world should be but they aren’t. Most Thais are more sensitive than most Americans I know to reading body language. You must be in a relaxed and nice state of mind.
You must be clean, and should be dressed fairly nicely.
Generally speaking, Thais are gentle, fun-loving, nonjudgemental, and positive-minded people. If you are too serious, overbearing, judgemental and impatient then you’re going to have a very difficult time here (unless you stick to the go-go bars instead).
If you look around at a lot of women, then they will dismiss you as a hunter or “snake head”. They will watch your eyes and your entire body language, and read you like a book. Most ladies will not give any hint of being attracted to a foreign guy until they have observed him awhile to assess his character.
You really can’t fake body language. You are what you are. As applies to Hollywood, “Bad actors act, good actors are”, i.e., bad actors act their character role without truly feeling it, whereas good actors become their character.
