Fix A Relationship
First, “people don’t change”, i.e., peoples’ personalities generally don’t change. If a girl has been one way all her life and then another way for a short while, you may have a chance if it’s in her best interests by her longstanding set of values and interests. But you can’t make people into what you want them to be. You must find someone who already has the natural traits you want.
If a woman has never had the self-discipline to learn a new skill, or perseverance at anything, then it’s unlikely she will ever do so. If a woman has done impulsive things all her life, she will almost certainly continue to do so.
People can change dramatically for a short time, e.g., a few days, a few weeks or even a few months, when sufficiently motivated (e.g., on a new adventure with a sugar daddy). But stay together continuously a long time and it will eventually seem like you’re right back where you started, as we say in the west.
If, however, you think that you have someone with solidly good traits but who just lacked opportunity, then I would suggest the following:
Find a better peer group of friends for her, and make her change her peer group from her prostitute friends to her schoolgoing or working new friends. Good luck…
In order to promote harmony from yourself and present a relationship she would be most motivated to develop, you should study Thai culture and think about which traits you should better adopt, e.g., controlling your temper at all times, being more polite and respectful towards Thais (and thus more respectable by Thais), and more of a family man. Some Thai traits will help you in your business life, though the lax ones will not.
Build up her self-esteem. I would suggest rewarding effort primarily, and not expecting great results immediately. The rate of results usually improves in time as they adapt mentally to the new ways of life. Thais are inherently much more laid back, culturally. (However, if the rate of results falls over time, consistently, then you have a more serious problem. Everyone has temporary lapses, so you must look at overall trends.)
Be a good role model, e.g., be truly monogamous (and keep your mobile phone on at all times…)
Don’t have unrealistic standards for others. There’s no perfect mate out there. Everyone’s different. Thai women are usually more subserviant than western women, but they still have their limitations, as does everyone.
This may give the relationship its best chance to work, if it has any realistic chance at all. If it still doesn’t work out, then don’t waste too much of your money and life’s time and energy on something that clearly isn’t going to work.
