Ex-Prostitute Girlfriends – What To Expect
The problems usually reported with ex-prostitute or prostitute girlfriends are the following:
- Lazy — don’t do housework, cook for the husband, clean up after themself, etc.
- Unfaithful
- Dishonest when it comes to where they are and what they’re doing (though often they are honest at first, then dishonest after the boyfriend expresses anger)
- Habitually consume large sums of money (compared to girls with no background in prostitution)
- Over time, fail to acquire additional skills (cooking, driving, business) that could help in the relationship
- If sent to school, skip classes
- If asked to help with the farang’s business, do less than the minimum of acceptability
- Irresponsible
Successful relationships, especially in terms of faithfulness, often occur with Thai girls who are made girlfriends within the first month of entering the business. Often, the boyfriend is the first or one of the first customers, and they spend some time in the scene before they get up the nerve to go with a man.
Their first man is usually carefully selected. There are instinctual reasons that ladies tend to bond with the first man they have sex with or one of the first decent men.
It is generally said that a girl is not girlfriend or marriage material after she’s been in the business from one to three months, unless, of course, you don’t expect a monogamous or longterm relationship.
While many people have concluded that prostitution changes a woman significantly, i.e., makes them a certain way, I don’t think that’s the entire picture. You have to also look at all the women who come into the business and leave it permanently within the first one to three months, leaving behind the ones who have psychologies which make them more inclined to take on prostitution as a way of life.
Once given the opportunity, and surrounded by a peer group seasoned in the occupation (often friends from childhood who are influential, close and trusted), the way of life has been opened up to them, and they undergo “bargirl training”. If they choose to stick with it…
Those who pass this decision point, and pass their first customer or few customers ready for more, will change from what they would be like otherwise, especially if they haven’t had a prior quality relationship with a Thai boyfriend, in that it will result in the development of a kind of mindset towards relationships with men that will be quite different from non-prostitutes, and their sexual development (if it hasn’t been formed already in a previous longterm relationship with a boyfriend) will also be corrupted (usually resulting in an inability to have true sexual gratification, i.e., orgasm with a man). Their experiences in prostitution, combined with training from their peers, will change them.
After a prostitute has been with a few men and decided to stick with the business, the frequency that they are willing to go out with additional men will skyrocket, usually.
They get hardened and “addicted to the hunt”, so that even after they have a boyfriend willing to support them financially, they will tend to go back to the scene when given a chance. Remarkably, they develop the traits of many of the sexually predatory men on the scene.
There is a high correlation between the tendency to gamble and the tendency for promiscuous prostitution. Ladies who gamble are usually the most promiscuous prostitutes. Gambling is a sensational addiction to thrills, and a costly one in many ways. It is also a desire to make money quickly without working for it.
