When You’re In The Shower

You will want to take a shower because a bath might make you sleepy for the rest of the evening—and you don’t want that.

Before you get into the shower, make sure that you have a razor, shaving scream, face soap, and anything else that you normally need. With everything on your mind right now, you don’t want to have to keep getting out for things that you have forgotten.

Wash your body very carefully first. You can scrub with one of those poofy sponges and some bath gel for a light, clean scent. You will want to use lukewarm water so that your skin doesn’t dry out too much.

Wash your hair carefully and don’t use too much conditioner. If your hair is generally clean to begin with, you may even want to skip this step. Hair that is slightly dirty is much easier to style.

After you’ve been in the shower for a while, you’re ready to shave. Shave your legs completely and don’t forget the underarms. Of course, you can omit these steps altogether for personal preference.

Another Shaving Question

Most women want to know if they should shave their private area completely.

This is completely up to you and your comfort level. One thing to note is that if you’ve never done it before this night, it will not end well. This skin is very sensitive and you could end up with a nasty rash.

If you are planning on giving it a try, you will want to start the process out a few weeks a head of time. Start by trimming the hair down and then go ahead and use a razor, depilatory, or wax (ouch). Or you can go to a salon to have this done.

A lot of men like the ‘bare’ approach, while other men prefer a half and half layout. It’s interesting to note that the less there is, the more excited you can get. Just a thought.

Dressing It Up

Get out your best lingerie ladies. This is the time for the ‘fun’ stuff that’s been sitting in your drawer. Or maybe you want to buy something special for the occasion. A nice bra and panty set is best.

Wear a nice outfit that is revealing, but in a classy way. You may feel comfortable showing a little cleavage, but you may want to keep it subtle when you’re wearing a short skirt.

Makeup Or Not?

Since it’s going to be an exciting night, you do want to put a little makeup on to make yourself look fantastic. Like the clothes, you will want to play up your best features.

A nice dark lipstick (if it looks good on you) is best with softer makeup on the rest of the face.

You may also want to consider waterproof and smudge resistance makeup to keep the look on until you get home.

Swinging is a new way to experience your current relationship in the presence of another couple or single. You can be heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual to enjoy this exciting lifestyle.

Who’s Swapping

Men and women from all walks of life are finding that wife swapping is something that appeals to them. Perhaps they’re been in a relationship for a while and just want to try something new.

Maybe there are sexual boundaries that they want to push through and you want to explore these with your partner.

Swingers are well-dressed, ‘normal’ folks that are looking for something more in their relationship, something that can bring them closer together in a fun and satisfying way. We’re not the ‘freaks’ that earlier stereotypes have made us to be.

And maybe this has been a fantasy for a long time that only recently the couple has decided to pursue.

The ages range from late twenties to mid-fifties and the sizes and shapes are numerous. If you’re into certain preferences and fetishes, then you’re also in luck because swinging can support those as well.

If you can think of it, swinging can do it for you.

Why We’re Swapping

We’re swinging because we want to try something new, not because we want to have more sex or cheat on our partners. In fact, swinging isn’t cheating at all.

Cheating implies secrecy and that there is something wrong with the act, but swinging is done with the full knowledge of the other partner. There are no secrets in swinging and everything is fully discussed before being done.

If anything, swinging brings you closer together because you can feel safe to try new things and support your partner as he or she is pleasured by someone else.

Where We’re Swapping

You can experience swinging just about anywhere these days. Most of the larger cities have their own swingers clubs or meeting places, while smaller towns have resources to find their own venues.

Many of the adult stores will guide you to swinging resources, but if they can’t help, then go onto the Internet for directories.

And if you’re a bit hesitant to go out and find other swinging couples, then you can always try the online swinging websites. Like regular dating websites, you will be matched up with other couples that are similar to your tastes and location.

Once you’ve found someone to swing with, then you can set up personal meetings at clubs or at your own residences.

And once you’re swinging, you can get even more creative with the locale.

You may want to try out going to an exotic (and erotic) destination and living out a dream vacation.

Swinging is the way that some couples find more gratification in their sexual lives and more strength in their relationship. If you’ve thought about giving swinging a try, then why not look into it?

Since you’re already laid down the guidelines for what kind of events may happen, you now need the perfect setting to get the night off to a perfect start.

Location, Location, Location

When you’re starting off in wife swapping, you want to be completely comfortable with the other couple (or single, etc). Choosing a place that suits everyone is a great way to begin.

Many times, a house or hotel room might be chosen.

I personally don’t like the sterility of a hotel room, so I will talk about being at someone’s house and you can apply these ideas to anywhere that you choose.

Creating an inviting environment starts with talking to everyone about things that they find seductive. Just talking about the evening may be erotic enough, but picking a house that is quiet and secluded may create the mood that you’re looking for.

Turning Down The Lights

It’s seemed clichéd to light a bunch of candles for a seduction scene, but it really works. The soft glow of the candles creates lighting that works for all skin tones and types, lessening any imperfections that may exist.

The other bonus to a few flickering candles is that you can settle any remaining nerves in virtual darkness.

There’s a sense of privacy that comes in almost complete darkness and your inhibitions can retreat in that safe feeling.

Fun Extras

You may also find that a few additional comforts can add to your planned evening. I like to spread pillows and soft blankets out in any of the rooms that may be used throughout the course of the night.

If you don’t have anyone with allergies or sensitivities, you may find that lighting a little incense is a great idea—sandalwood is incredibly erotic.

Although this might not sound like ‘fun’ as such, having plenty of protection available will make for a safe and fun adventure. Condoms and spermicides in every locale will ensure that your bases (and other things) are covered.

Making Everyone Comfortable

The first time of wife swapping is the time for compliments and more compliments. This is no time to be judgmental (if there ever is one) or make the other person feel that they’re not doing well.

If something isn’t going as well as it could, gently guide the other person down a better path and show them how much pleasure you are feeling for it.

Privacy Matters

There’s nothing that can kill a mood faster than an unexpected interruption.

Turn off all of the phones, cellular phones, pagers, faxes, etc. You do not want to have the chance that something could break your concentration during a particularly important moment.

Send any children to a sitter or relative’s house and make sure that any animals are kept out of the way as well.

If you’re concerned about an actual emergency, then set up some way to communicate that.

Other than that, draw the shades and blinds, turn off the porch light, and lock all the doors. You’re in for the night until you leave or retreat to your separate sleeping areas.