Let’s go over the highlights of what we’ve already talked about:

Beginning With A Strong Relationship

Since swinging is not the standard relationship format (but I’m hopeful), you might be filled with self-doubt about whether or not something like this can work for you. You may have a lot of preconceived notions as to how a relationship between partners should exist.

But you’re wondering if you could try something new.

You’re not dissatisfied with your partner, but you feel like you want to share yourself with someone else—with the knowledge of your partner.

Having a strong relationship with open lines of communication is the best way to begin a foray into swinging. If there are any problems or concerns, they can be quickly addressed, rather than turning into larger issues.

Talk with your partner about swinging to see what they think. You might be surprised to find out that they are just as interested as you are.

Make out a list of things that you could enjoy with another person and see what your partner thinks.

Finding Someone To Swing With

Every city has the opportunity to find someone who is into swinging. All it takes is an open eye and a little research. You can start with the various Internet directories of swinging clubs and associations, or you may just want to wander into your local adult book shop for literature.

The online swinging community is growing and dating websites have popped up to make the search safe and secure. You can meet up with couples from all parts of the world, or search for some that are closer to home.

Through e-mail and video chats, you can get to know someone before you even reveal your names. In this way, you can be as comfortable as possible before taking the plunge.

Pushing Off

And then comes the time when you are reading to get into the nitty gritty of swinging.

Whether you choose soft or hard swinging at first, all that matters is that you are up front about what you expect from your experience and how you interact with the other couple (or single, or couples, etc).

Touching another person or watching another couple pleasure each other is arousing and liberating.

You can try sex toys and roleplaying to spice things up down the road, remembering always to make sure that everyone is on board with changes you make in your interactions.

Keep an open mind and you will not only increase your self-confidence and sexual ability, but also realize that your current relationship is incredibly strong and supportive.

By being able to indulge each other in your fantasies, you are creating yet another way to communicate with one another in order to make each other as happy as you can.

So that’s all I have time for now, as I have to go out swinging!

So in the meantime – Happy Swinging!

Although how you act is what drives the roleplaying, you need to look believable to pull it off.

Start by going to your local costume shop or thrift store to look for the perfect ‘ingredients.’ Have a general idea in mind of what you need—accessories and all. That is, if you’re looking to be a maid, you not only need the outfit, but also the apron and a feather duster (oh la la).

Make sure to try the outfits on before you buy them. You are trying to look good, and an ill-fitting costume might not make you feel the part as well.

A word on materials that are sexy—some people love latex and leather. Find out what your ‘victim’ might like and incorporate that as much as you can.

Of course, if you go to your local adult shop for your costume, you may find even more racy choices. Just don’t get too turned on in the dressing room.

The Temptation Begins

Understanding that you are setting a scene for a sexual encounter will give you great ideas to play it out as long as possible.

If you’re able, you may want to hint at your plans well ahead of the actual date. For example, you may want to send hints—i.e. a set of handcuffs or a cleaning rag. Of course, you want to be discreet about it as well.

If you talk ahead of time, you will want to leave small hints about your plans. This is sure to get their mind and their heart racing (among other things).

Stepping Out

Once you’re in the setting, you must begin the part. Have your partner for the evening move him or herself to the right location and then go change into your ‘gear.’

You may want to start some music as you walk out or whatever else might help to set the mood. Saunter out into view and begin your act.

Forget who you are for a moment and become a sexier version. Make sure that they are acting their part as well. Although succumbing to your charms will surely not be too terribly difficult.

Realize that in the end, you will be seducing the other person and that’s inevitable.

Understand That…

Not everyone will be the perfect acting accomplice in your roleplaying. And you may laugh or break out of your character.

But it’s like a muscle. If you keep trying, you just get better and better.

Realize that your fantasy or their fantasy might not work out perfectly the first few times, so talk about what could go better or what could be done to make it less humorous and more erotic.

Practice does indeed make perfect.